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A question that I get asked quite often is: how do I know when to see a therapist? Or another way that people often phrase this question is: how is seeing a therapist any different than talking to a really good friend? I often say that it is important to see a therapist when you notice yourself feeling overly stressed, overwhelmed, or struggling with mental health symptoms consistent with depression or anxiety. Although friends can be a great source of support, it can be difficult for friends to be completely objective and neutral. Oftentimes when we're talking to our friends we become concerned for their emotional wellbeing, so we often hold back and not share everything that we really need to share. So seeing a therapist is a way of dedicating time on a consistent basis to your own mental health and seeking support. If you notice that your symptoms when seeing a therapist are not improved then we might need to consider a referral to a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of mental health conditions. Many psychiatrists - although they do also do psychotherapy - prescribe medication. So when medication becomes needed, seeing a psychiatrist can be the next step in getting the help that you need.
A question that I get asked quite often is: how do I know when to see a therapist? Or another way that people often phrase this question is: how is seeing a therapist any different than talking to a really good friend? I often say that it is important to see a therapist when you notice yourself feeling overly stressed, overwhelmed, or struggling with mental health symptoms consistent with depression or anxiety. Although friends can be a great source of support, it can be difficult for friends to be completely objective and neutral. Oftentimes when we're talking to our friends we become concerned for their emotional wellbeing, so we often hold back and not share everything that we really need to share. So seeing a therapist is a way of dedicating time on a consistent basis to your own mental health and seeking support. If you notice that your symptoms when seeing a therapist are not improved then we might need to consider a referral to a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of mental health conditions. Many psychiatrists - although they do also do psychotherapy - prescribe medication. So when medication becomes needed, seeing a psychiatrist can be the next step in getting the help that you need.
A question that I get commonly asked is: what is the difference between seeing a therapist and speaking to friends and family? Friends and family are a great source of support, but oftentimes it can be important for us to seek professional help. When we use our friends and family as our only source of mental health support, oftentimes it can be difficult to be completely open and honest about the things that we're struggling with. We also can find ourselves worrying about the impact of our conversations or the extent of the support that we need on the friendship. For example, sometimes when one person is really struggling, it can put a burden on the friendship. So making it a point to see a therapist during a difficult time is a way of dedicating a set time - usually every week - towards your own mental health and really seeing somebody who is objective, has the time to listen, ask all the questions that need to be asked, and an opportunity for you to be completely open and honest about the things that you're struggling with.
A common question is: what is the difference between a therapist and a psychiatrist and how do I know when I need to see a therapist vs. when I need to see a psychiatrist? Psychiatrists are medical doctors, which means that they went to medical school to learn how to diagnose and treat a variety of mental health conditions. Most psychiatrists prescribe medication and many psychiatrists also do therapy. Therapists often have gone to graduate school and practice therapy but in most states don't prescribe medication. So how do you know when you need to see a therapist vs. when you need to see a psychiatrist? Oftentimes seeing a therapist is the first step and starting with therapy as the first source of intervention for whatever you are struggling with and seeing whether or not that can be helpful. If you find that you continue to have symptoms despite regular therapeutic support, it might be worth considering a referral to a psychiatrist to see whether medications might be helpful. Oftentimes if there is a concern that there might be medical issues or substance abuse also contributing to a mental health condition, having a psychiatric evaluation can also be important.
One of the most difficult things that we can experience is noticing that we have a family member or a friend or a partner or even a child who's struggling with a mental health concern and a question that I often get asked is: how can I actually help a friend or a family member who is struggling? There's a few things that I can recommend in situations like these. The first is to set aside an appropriate time and place to talk to the person that you're concerned about. Setting the stage, making sure that you have your undivided time and attention to actually communicate your concerns can be really helpful. The second is expressing your concern and expressing your intention. This can often start by saying, "I've been worried about you because I've noticed that you appear depressed lately, or, I think that you have been drinking too much lately." Being really clear about what the specific behaviors are that are concerning and being clear about the fact that we're worried and we're only trying to help or do what's best for the person that we're concerned about. The third is to find the next action step. How can I actually help you? Can I help you to find a doctor? Can I contact your insurance company for you? Can I go to your appointment with you? And really identifying a tangible way in which you can be supportive and helpful and getting your family member or friends buy-in on taking that next step together. Fourthly, frequently checking in. Oftentimes we take that initial step but then we don't necessarily follow up. So checking in frequently with our friend or family member. "How's it going? Is there anything that you need? Do you like your therapist or your doctor who you've been seeing or should we look for somebody else?" Frequently checking in with the person who is struggling can be really important and allowing your loved one to feel supported. And the last step, which is perhaps the most important one, is letting go of our expectations. Although we might have positive intentions and a really genuine desire to help a family member or friend who is struggling, it's important to recognize that each person is on their own journey and we have to provide them with support and meet them wherever they're at. Oftentimes, we have expectations that that should look a certain way and we get disappointed or frustrated when our loved ones are not willing to take that step that we want them to take. So it can be really important to release our expectations of what we want the other person to do and meet them where they're at.
A common question that's asked is: should a person start with therapy or with medication? As with so many things, there's no one-size-fits-all right answer, but there are some things to consider: therapy works well. Medications work well. The combination of the two seems to work better than either one by itself, and so oftentimes they will be combined. I often recommend it to patients if the clinical situation is appropriate to start with therapy. Therapy being a little bit more of a conservative option without the side effects that you necessarily could see from medication. If a course of therapy really doesn't seem to be helping, then consider adding on medication. That being said, every situation is unique and it has to be assessed individually, so there are no hard and fast rules, but that is one potential way to consider.
When you're meeting your therapist for the first time, it can often be difficult to know, is this the right therapist for me? What you're looking for is what we call fit or patient therapist fit. What that means is that the personality of the therapist fits your needs as a patient. That doesn't mean the therapist needs to be your best friend, but it does mean that the therapist needs to be able to push you when you need to be pushed and at the same time help you along through your journey. If your first therapist or your first experience with therapy didn't go exactly the way you wanted, there's a good chance that it was related to fit and if so, give it another try and see if you can find a therapist that might fit your needs a little bit better. Don't be afraid to tell your therapist what you need or if you feel the fit isn't exactly right. It's your therapy. Make sure you're taking care of yourself. Therapists are trained to recognize a good fit with a patient and a therapist, and if they feel that it's not a good fit, they'll refer you to someone else. It's kind of like if you go to see a dentist for a broken bone, that dentist isn't going to be able to help you, and so they'll refer you to a doctor that will be able to help.
There are three things that you should ask your therapist before starting therapy with them. Number one, their previous experience treating patients like you. It's really important to know that your therapist knows how to treat a patient, that is dealing with the things that you are dealing with to education and licensure. This is really important to make sure that the therapist that you are seeing is held by a certain ethical and legal code and is educated about that code. And number three, fees. It's often uncomfortable to talk about money, especially when you meet someone for the first time, but it's really important to understand how much therapy is going to cost you, especially because therapy can be pretty expensive.
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